Wednesday, December 15, 2004
MORE ON PAOLO COELHO
A reader of my other blog recommended that I read this. And so I searched for it and, voila! here it is! It. is. such. a. good. read. Manhid na ang hindi tamaan. Hehe!

CLOSING CYCLES
by Paolo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. if we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and meaning of the other stages we have to go through. closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters - whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave the past moments of life that have long been gone.
did you lose your job? had a loving relationship come to an end? did you leave your parents' home? had a long lasting friendship end all of a sudden? you can spend a long time wondering why this happened. you can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. but such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your siblings; everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill. none of us can be in the present and in the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. what has passed will not return: we cannot forever be children, late adoloescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back. things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

that is why it is important (however painful it may be) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanage, sell or donated the books you have at home. everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts - and getting rid of certain memories also means making room for other memories to take their place. let things go. release them. detach yourself from them. nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the "ideal moment."
before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person - nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. this may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
closing cycles. not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

Posted by Bunny at 3:06 PM
5 Comments:
Anonymous Anonymous said...

manhid na lang talaga ang hindi tamaan. God bless you...

December 15, 2004 at 11:32 PM

 
Blogger notsquare said...

hindi ako manhid. WOW. ganda.

December 16, 2004 at 9:05 AM

 
Blogger odette said...

beautiful! :)

December 16, 2004 at 6:46 PM

 
Blogger d3nd3n said...

ay nabasa ko 'to. grabe, tagos sa buto. hehe!

December 21, 2004 at 2:48 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the ideal thing to do. i can relate, so much!! that's why i know it's not easy to do. am just a mere mortal who live sin the past.

October 25, 2005 at 9:23 AM

 

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